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Month: July 2018

“Twenty-Five” by Caitlin Thomson

If the pain that visits my body every day had a name
perhaps it would be easier to talk about it to others,

including the doctor, who nods sympathetically
and draws dogs on his prescription pad to entertain my daughter –

the under two crowd loves a good dog. I will see him again
for years, every once in a while, but the pain visits daily,

it does not ask to be fit into my busy schedule
it finds a way, and I in turn have found a way to smile

with a punch in my gut. To eat food and make conversation
while my stomach, contracts in and out as if I am preparing

to give birth. I have cleaned my house and walked through
The Louvre with a paring knife in my bowels. What to do with this?

The doctor doesn’t say that nothing can be done with words
but with years of inaction, of tests, each as unhelpful as the next.

 

 

Caitlin Thomson has an MFA from Sarah Lawrence College. Her work has appeared in numerous anthologies and literary journals including: The Adroit Journal, Rust + Moth, Barrow Street Journal, and The Pittsburgh Poetry Review.  You can learn more about her writing at www.caitlinthomson.com.

“Mind as Body: Review of Sabrina Benaim’s Depression & Other Magic Tricks and Brenna Twohy’s Zig-Zag Girl” by Jordan E. McNeil

When people speak of the body, I find they mostly mean “body” in the physical sense: organs and sinew and genetic makeup. But for me, my recently diagnosed mental illness and lingering grief are just as much a part of my body as my blood and my bones. Body, to me, is similar to identity or the sum of all the parts that make me me and you you, and our mind—and what goes on there—is a large part of that.

Poets Sabrina Benaim and Brenna Twohy address these aspects of body in their most recent books: Depression & Other Magic Tricksand Zig-Zag Girl, respectively. Depression and grief and just pure emotions are presented and explored in these poems—how they affect your attempts at living your life, how they can be or become part of who you are. While each book focuses more on one of these that the other (Benaim on depression/mental illness; Twohy on grief/emotion), they are doing similar work with their interpretations of the body.

Depression & Other Magic Tricks

I found Benaim’s book via a video on Button Poetry’s Facebook page. It was a recording of the poet sharing her poem “explaining my depression to my mother a conversation,” and it entranced me. “mom,/my depression is a shape shifter;/one day it is as small as a firefly in the palm of a bear,/the next, it’s the bear./those days i play dead until the bear leaves me alone.” (pg 6) Her poem so clearly presented what it feels like to have depression and anxiety, in ways I’ve been unable to put into words for those who have not experienced it themselves, that I followed the link to order her book immediately. When it arrived, I was not disappointed with the rest of her poems. While “explaining my depression” is not the opening poem to the book, it still works to encapsulate the book as a whole: a young woman attempting to understand this part of her identity, of her body. “mom still doesn’t understand./mom,/can’t you see?/neither do i.” (pg 8)

Utilizing various forms (prose poetry, erasure, spoken word), the book follows the progression of living with a mental illness and coming to terms with it being part of yourself, part of your body and your identity, to it’s conclusion. The final poem of the book, “follow-up a prayer/a spell,” shows the speaker of the collection more at peace: “i am feeling better/so i say/good morning/& mean it//yes/today/is a good morning/to exhale/to feel joy//with the release of breath/i no longer need to be holding” (pg 69). The speaker is not fixedor cured, because that’s not how depression works, but she is better, for now. She’s accepting help in all forms (“if i need more help i will let the people offering help me//if i need more help i will let the medication help me/i forgive my body for being a machine after all”) and realizing that as a part of her body, she can live with it. And the moment is beautiful.

Zig-Zag Girl

Twohy’s book caught me with the opening poem “A Coworker Asks Me If I Am Sad, Still,” a wonderfully poignant piece about grief, but also could be read as speaking about depression, and often the two are friends and bedmates. “A Coworker Asks Me If I Am Sad, Still/& I tell her,//grief is not a feeling,/but a neighborhood.//this is where I come from/everyone I love still lives there.” (pg 9) The book is segmented into three sections (Zig, Zag, and Girl), but as a whole it focuses on various types of grief—loss of a sibling, possibly to suicide; loss of love, even though it was with someone you shouldn’t’ve been, possibly toxic and misguided—with undertones of mental illness and womanhood.

Section 1, Zig, is clearly focused on the loss of a brother at an age where it’s unexpected. But the other two start to merge these themes together, showing how all of it can become entangled in each other. How it can become entangled in yourself. Section 3, Girl, shows recovery of what can be recovered from, and acceptance of what cannot. The ending couple of poems, “I Am Not Clinically Crazy Anymore” and “when the crazy came back” encapsulate what it’s like to have a mental illness, to have intense grief, and how you push yourself to keep going. “this body knows withstand. knows/what the morning looks like when she says stay.//the crazy/is a quitter.//you have a perfect/attendance record for this life.//& I will stay./& I will stay.” (pg 52-53)

I’m not sure if Benaim and Twohy would say they wrote poetry of the body in these books if asked, but I think they did. And they did so in a way that’s easy for anyone, even traditionally non-readers of poetry, to pick up and breathe in. Both poets are performance poets, having competed in various slam competitions and sharing their spoken word at events and in video, and they both utilized that skill in these books of poetry. There is an attention to language and sounds that sing to the reader, but it’s spent in more “plain” sentences, easy to read and understand and commit to memory. They don’t utilize as many of the techniques and aspects some may consider “high poetry,” such as complex metaphors or a high vocabulary, but show how even “plain” speaking can be poetry.

These poets are simply telling it how it is, which is so important when dealing with mental health. There is less stigma associated with it nowadays, but it’s still around. People are still afraid they are going to be misunderstood or judged if they speak about their mental illness; others will refuse to speak at all because it’s not something you talk about. These poetry books are doing important work within this conversation, this realm of discussion, by presenting poems that are poignant and linger in the mind, but are easy to read and devour. (This also means that these books are doing important work in the poetry realm as well, serving as an access point to those who may normally not read poetry. Both of these would serve well as a book you press into that friend’s hands and say why don’t you give this a try.)

Another thing I found interesting was the reoccurring theme of magic (not wizards and spells as much as magicians and shows) within these poems. Benaim has a five poem series entitled “magic trick,” as well as references in other poems and the title; Twohy has magic show centered poems “Shell Game” and “Zig-Zag Girl,” and also shows it in her cover art, which is designed to look like the book is a pack of cards being opened.

These intrigued me because when I was younger, I was obsessed with magic tricks, desperate to learn to impress friends and family and maybe, one day, complete strangers. But as I read these books, I realized how perfect this idea of magic was when talking about depression and anxiety. Magic tricks, at their core, are about illusion and misdirection. It doesn’t matter if you’re doing card tricks, or street magic, or sawing a woman in half, how you get away with it is that simple. Make it look like you’re doing one thing, then do another; keep the audience’s attention over here, while you truly do the trick over there.

Depression and anxiety are the magician, and you are the audience. They like to tell you that one thing is going on, when most likely it’s not, or not to the degree in which they are convincing you. They turn a simple slight of hand into a production so large you feel unable to deal with it. This is how they get you. In these books, however, Benaim and Twohy flip that script, show their speakers (you, the audience) doing the magic. Showing that you can live with your mental illness, you can have them be a part of you. And maybe you can make some magic along the way.

          in some stories,
          
the protagonist has to kill the bad thing to release its light.

          in my story,
          
i am the protagonist & the bad thing,
          
i have to learn how to bend the light out of myself.

                                                                                                                   i can do that magic.                

(“on releasing light” by Sabrina Benaim)

 

Jordan E. McNeil writes, rages at videogames, and takes selfies with goats. Her work can be found in Jenny Magazine, Penguin Review, Rubbertop Review, and Willow: Women in Lit Lifting Other Women. She can be found on Twitter, @Je_McNeil.

“Watchwoman” by Sarah Bigham

It is 1:12 a.m. and while my body aches for sleep, I am still awake, keeping watch on my battered body. And my busy mind. And the charts that keep me safe.

The woman who cuts my hair has two young children and goes to bed at 8:30 p.m. My wife is regularly snoring soon after 9. A colleague swears by her 9:30 bedtime and another counts a good vacation as one during which she is asleep well before 10 every night. A friend has decided that 10 p.m. is the ideal time to get in bed with a good book before dropping off to sleep. By 10 p.m., virtually everyone I know has purposefully headed off to bed. But I remain upright. For hours more, along with college students and third shifters and new parents and, perhaps, certain heads of state who contemplate possible repercussions of various policies or acts. A good night is when I am in bed by 2 a.m.

It began with the pain, the gnawing, tightening, searing pain that flared outwards and created such havoc that not one inch of skin was spared. Changing into pajamas seemed impossible. Lying down seemed madness. So much better to remain standing, rooting the worst of the pain down through my feet.

Pacing the house. Two a.m. wandering is what I call it. When I meet other pain patients, they know exactly what I mean, for there are nights when they do it too. The bad nights. When it seems better to force your eyes open and stand with the awfulness of your current condition, knowing that at least you have survived THIS day with THIS pain. You did it. You made it. You did not give up today. And while it was bad, so much worse than what anyone without pain can possibly imagine, it was ultimately survivable, because here you stand. But tomorrow might not be. It might be worse. That is where my mind goes on the 2 a.m. wandering nights. I am on the lookout, ever vigilant, for any possible disruption to a detailed routine that allows me to exist in some sort of meaningful way. I envy those who live by a creed of Let go and let God, or believe in predetermined fate or are in some way able to accept a miserable situation and move through each new day with no compulsion to plan or expect anything.

Perhaps my expectations are just too high.

So I now stand guard, every light ablaze in the house, my amulet against the surrounding darkness. I stand, adjusting my posture to take pressure off of aching hips. I stand as I create a grocery list. I stand as I paint and I write and I prepare for classes. While standing, I feel powerful. So I stand as I compare my calendars with my daily spreadsheet of medical tasks. It is a carefully balanced act, this life of mine. There is a chart of daily home treatments and stretches and medication ingestion, plus the never-ending appointments in offices and clinics throughout the region. Without my team of healthcare providers and complementary medicine practitioners, I would be unfunctional. They are an absolutely necessary part of my life.

Once a month I travel out of state, sitting for three agonizing hours in the car, for treatment unavailable anywhere else. After staying over at whichever hotel has the best rate that particular week, I make the trip home the next day.

Every office has its own forms, its own culture, its own expectations for patients, and its own appointment scheduling routine. I am grateful that while my physical body has been afflicted, my mind has been largely spared thus far, leaving me with the organizations skills needed to pull off the merry-go-round of interventions that keep me going, that keep me from crying on the couch, that keep me from remaining in bed for days on end with greasifying hair and skin-sloughed sheets. Or worse.

It is full-time work, managing chronic illnesses, requiring patience and ingenuity and negotiation skills—not to mention the time and energy that are so scarce in those of us with heavy medical burdens.

I sometimes feel cursed or, at the very least, unwanted. In one recent week, six different medical offices contacted me to say that my methodically scheduled appointments needed to be changed. I took the calls while standing, then stood before the spreadsheet and prepared to do battle.

The physical therapy receptionist told me that an upcoming appointment I had scheduled weeks in advance was no longer available. The PT’s schedule had changed. I was to be moved to a new therapist at a different time. The decision had been made for me, as if I would have no issue with it, when in fact I did. I had to work during the newly allocated timeslot, at a job I am clinging to with my fingernails, my last vestige of stability and purpose. At least the location hasn’t changed, chirped the receptionist, who seemed somewhat taken aback by my decided lack of enthusiasm for this new schedule. But I needed an appointment, as the treatment gives me some degree of noticeable pain relief each time. So I bargained for a different slot, one that did not interfere with work, and then went about updating my calendars and my spreadsheets. And my expectations.

The acupuncturist’s office closed due to unexpectedly brutal weather, a decision I fully supported. I was able to nab a late afternoon appointment later in the week. (Morning appointments do not suit those of us who keep vampire hours.) This was an easy change, requiring few adjustments.

The dental office closed the following day because of continuing winter weather, whiting out my appointment. This one I also understood. The office closed for everyone’s safety. And my appointment was for just a routine cleaning. This particular office offers online scheduling, which is very convenient for me, when, awake at 1:12 a.m., I was able to use it and select a date later in the month that worked for me.

The rheumatologist’s office also called to cancel my appointment, as there was a snow emergency plan in effect and everyone was advised to stay home. This also made complete sense to me. Until I was told that the next available appointment was two months away. Tears leaked from my eyes. This was an appointment that held great meaning for me, an opportunity to further explore my medical mysteries, but most importantly, solve an insurance issue I had encountered with a medication. The insurance situation could have been solved in about five minutes had I been able to see the doctor in person. Had she been able to call the insurance company on my behalf, with all of the necessary data in front of her. But now, I thought as I hung up, I would need to spend hours on the phone to hopefully emerge with a prescription approval for a medication that, with insurance, costs $100 for a month’s supply. It is one of 12 different prescriptions I take. And then there are the supplements. Some are exorbitantly and laughably expensive, and I am not certain I need each one. But I am too scared to stop some of them, fearful that any such change could make the pain flare once again, above the usual daily onslaught, something I am willing to do most anything to prevent.

The final call came from the pelvic health office, informing me that the appointment I had made many months ago for that very day would need to be changed to a different day. The office is over an hour away. I had to secure a driver as my wife had to work that day and I am unable to drive long distances by myself. When scheduling this appointment, I meticulously picked a day when I did not have to work. The pelvic health doctor would be leaving the practice and this was to be my final visit with her before she turned me over to the new person. No other appointments were available with the soon-to-depart nurse practitioner – not that day, or any other time that week.

What about the new person? I asked. Could she see me today?

No, was the answer. She is fully booked. They both are.

The schedule was somehow screwed up.

Screwed up. To them, it seemed, it was a clerical error, a technical glitch in the system, a piece that did not fit. To me, it represented months of planning. I had already sent in my blood work results from other specialists, visit notes from other providers, and the document I create for every medical visit, with clearly listed updates and bulleted questions so that busy medical professionals can perhaps be prepared for me, the medical unicorn, who appears in their office regularly. She had all of this material. We had communicated back and forth via the “portal” used by the office. And then the call came in. I would not be able to say goodbye. And the new person could not see me for two months. Because of a clerical error that had nothing to do with me, my schedule was in ruins.

Others were worrying about their smashed March Madness brackets. I was looking at my schedule and wondering how my careful, methodical efforts to manage my elusive illnesses had come to this. I found myself on my knees, an unusual position for me these days as middle age has seemingly morphed my bones in a way that makes kneeling incredibly painful, with bony protrusions just below each knee that mock me. But there I was, on the floor, defeated. All of the planning had come to naught. I would need to start again.

So I slowly stood.

And prepared to begin my nightly watch.

 

 

Sarah Bigham teaches, writes, and paints in Maryland where she lives with her kind chemist wife, their three independent cats, an unwieldy herb garden, several chronic pain conditions, and near-constant outrage at the general state of the world tempered with love for those doing their best to make a difference. A Pushcart nominee, Sarah’s poetry, fiction, and nonfiction have appeared in a variety of great places for readers, writers, and listeners. Find her at www.sgbigham.com.

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